The main signs that you have with secure attachment style are the following:
Positive view of self
Positive view of others
Positive view on life
Generally, you have emotional availability and maturity, you feel safe able to connect and build meaningful relationships.
In the context of finances, these are some ways in how our secure attachment may show up in our behaviours with money. Reflect on the list below and take note of the behaviours that you relate to (you may not identify with all of them)
Financial Confidence
You tend to have confidence in your ability to manage money. You believe in your capacity to make sound financial decisions and are less likely to be overwhelmed by financial challenges.
Open Communication
You engage in open communication about money with your partners, family, or friends. You feel comfortable discussing financial goals, concerns, and strategies for the future.
Balanced Spending and Saving
You typically find a balance between spending and saving. You are mindful of your financial goals and allocate resources in a way that aligns with your priorities, ensuring both present enjoyment and future security.
Financial Goal Setting
Securely attached individuals are more likely to set clear and achievable financial goals. These goals provide a sense of purpose and direction, contributing to a positive and proactive approach to money management.
Emotional Resilience in Financial Challenges
You are often emotionally resilient in the face of financial challenges. You view setbacks as temporary and are more likely to seek solutions rather than succumb to feelings of helplessness or anxiety.
Proactively schedule money dates
You tend to have trust in financial relationships. Whether it's trusting a partner with shared finances or having confidence in the advice of a financial advisor, you build and maintain trusting connections.
Financial Independence with Collaboration
You can balance financial independence with collaboration. You value autonomy but also recognize the importance of working together on shared financial goals within a relationship.
Consistent Financial Planning
A secure attachment style often translates into consistent financial planning. You are more likely to create and follow a budget, demonstrate responsible credit management, invest with confidence and regularly review your financial situation, and make adjustments as needed.
Gratitude for Financial Resources
You tend to express gratitude for their financial resources. You appreciate what you have and recognize the positive impact that financial stability can have on their overall well-being.
Tips to heal your disorganized attachment to money:
Congratulations! You have a secure attachment style with money. However, challenges in life can through us off balance. Our goal is to continue to strengthen this bond and identify the gaps in how we can overall fine tune this area in our lives.